First, grief is normal, and it takes time to process this emotion and move on. It never goes completely away. Few things in life are as bad as losing a loved one. But… If a LONG time has gone by, and you are still unable to function normally, perhaps you should consider seeing me or another good hypnotist for some help.
I didn’t set out to have a focus on grief, but I have had clients come to me for help dealing with the loss of a loved one, and I have been VERY successful in helping them. Word of mouth from pleased clients has added many clients for this issue.
I don’t take away the memories you have of your loved one, but I can help you to not feel pain when you think of those memories, to help you accept your loss, and to move forward in your life.
While every client is different, and I do not use the same techniques on everyone, if our pretalk indicates that it will be useful I have a technique that helps both the conscious (logical) part of your mind and the sub-conscious (emotional) part both accept the loss. Frequently our conscious KNOWS there the person has moved on, but the subconscious refuses to accept the loss, which leave us stuck in a grief state.
With her permission, I will tell you the story of a client who I helped. She was in her 70’s, and had lost her adult son to long term medical problems about a year earlier. She was experiencing daily rage at her loss, was ignoring her adult daughters and her husband, and she spent days sitting with her son’s belongings, just holding them and crying.
In our pretalk, I found that because of his health issues, she had cared for him as much as his widow did, and she was with him every day for a decade, and just couldn’t accept his loss. She told me that she had gone through therapy, doctors, and support groups, but none of them helped her, and that I was her last hope.
In our first session, I used a technique to get her logical side (which knew her son had passed, that after a decade of pain he was finally not hurting) and her emotional side (my baby, I love him, he can’t be dead) in sync. While I did not suggest this thought to her, when I brought her back from hypnosis in our first session, she told me that she had heard her son’s voice telling her “Mama, it’s ok. Let go of the pain. I want you to be happy”.
After that first session, my client did not have another rage session about her son. Two more sessions had her able to visit his widow, go to her beach house where she had strong memories of him, and start packing away his belongings. Her children and her husband can’t believe the difference, and she credits me for saving her life… A bit strong praise, but it made me feel good to hear it, as I loved helping her.
I can’t promise you the instant relief that this client felt, as everyone is different, and your results depend on how much you want to change, and how well you follow the instructions given…. But, I have helped more than a dozen clients in 4 months have similar results.